How is your New Year Resolution? Now it is May, 150 days into a year.

It is hard to create a new habit or continue a habit.

I am not good at it at all. I admire my friends and colleagues who have good habits, like write a journal everyday, work out every day etc. I started many "new habits" which ended by third or fourth day. Now I think of it, it was putting "it has to be perfectly done" idea. Like dieting, laundry, dishes, posting articles on my website, exercising, playing with kids etc.

Also thinking it has to last forever was too much. When I think of things I successfully continued at least few months had two things in common;

1 - having relaxed standard

2 - time-limited

Also while creating what to do, brain-storming the purpose of doing it can be helpful to stick to it. It is an easy pitfall for making resolutions. We come up with what to do before firmly sure about what the purpose you want from doing something new. There are so many how-to videos and articles to do anything. To be happy. To be organized. To get rid of Postpartum Depression. To be perfect parent. To decorate for holidays. To have perfectly line up summer activities for kids.

The purposes behind how-to are great. Having purposes keeps us working and improve our life.

There is one step between having these purposes and coming up with what to do to achieve that. That is vision of when you achieve that purpose whatever you want.

Let's take "I want to be happy". Before I jump into signing myself up for workshops or life coach sessions or throwing away clutter in my house or reading up on how-to articles online, I need to examine what that looks like when I become happy.

1 - What happy look like?

2 -What would I be doing?

3 - What would my relationship with my family look like when I am happy or when I would be happy?

4 - When I imagine myself being happy in the near future, how would I have gotten there?

5 - Who would notice? and what would that person notice different without me saying that I am happy and doing well?

You want to take a look at it inside and out.

Because your answers to these questions would be different and unique and reflects your core value, it is very important to know these before picking up what to do and putting it into action.

So, what did you find about you and your value?